Tuesday Truth.
Number 12.
Un-Becoming.
Who were you meant to be in the first place?
Have you ever pondered this? Even just a tiny bit?
Well, I have. And given that I have a propensity for ponderings, it’s likely been more than just a tiny bit.
If you’ve been around my blog for a while, then it’s likely that this truth looks familiar.
That is because I shared it on the post about turning the page to my 41st birthday.
The image is of me capturing a sunset (one of my favorite things to do) in my hometown before my mother and I began our 2nd journey to Scotland.
Something that a few years ago I could never have fathomed happening once, much less twice (and I’m secretly hoping for many more).
The age of 40 was a big year of growth for me.
A digging away at the layers of who I’d been told that I was and searching for the person that I’d always been.
An un-becoming.
Even though December tends to be a busy time, I deliberately take moments to reflect on how far I’ve come and what I’ve accomplished over the year. I look at what worked and what didn’t. I decide if I focused my attention on the areas and people that I really wanted to or if I just fell into patterns without mindfulness.
I also make plans for goals I’d like to achieve in the upcoming year.
The main one always being to live in my authenticity.
To keep seeking what that looks like.
To evolve.
This quote speaks deeply to my soul.
I want to become who I’ve always been.
I hope that it speaks to your soul as well.
If it does, let me know what it says to you.
Let your light shine!
Amy
Love this post – and the thoughts behind it. I’ve found myself wondering about this whole writing thing recently – and wondering if there might actually be a path out of my current career, if I get my head down and go for it. It’s interesting how so many of us don’t end up where we were originally headed, isn’t it.
I’m glad that you loved the thoughts behind this post. I think we often chase things because we’ve been told that’s what we are supposed to want (I actually stumbled across an old blog where I talk about it: https://bedlamanddaisies.com/2017/03/01/this-road-we-travel/.
I think you do a phenomenal job at remembering the details of a moment and noticing the things that most people just zip by in daily life. You may just find that a writing career truly is the next path to veer down.
Recent life changes are what led me to take an even bigger leap with my writing and photography. Will it lead anywhere? We shall see. But I’m definitely trying to make the most of the journey. 🙂
Great uplifting blog! We all get stuck in the mire of who we’re expected to be, not who we really are.
Thank you!! I think this is so true. I only hope that most can find their way out of the mire. 🙂
This is sooo good, Amy! I’m writing this one down. I have never heard this idea put into words quite like this– it’s powerful. Always love your Tuesday truths.
Oh yay!! I love it when the quotes inspire others as much as they inspire me! Have an amazing time on your trip Mackenzie!! <3
Thanks, Amy!! ❤️
What a relief that I’ve finally resolved my technical issues and can now comment on your posts again! Who knew that one tiny setting created by a MAC software upgrade could cause so many problems.
I really like this quote and each time I run across it, it speaks to me. We tend to get buried under half-truths and misunderstandings and sometimes outright manipulation. I’ve been peeling back layers for years.
I don’t know what the best version of me is, but I can say I like myself better today than I did in my youth.
I’m so glad that you got that straightened out. I’ll have to keep that in mind on my end if I have any troubles because I just updated my Mac.
I think one of the most important steps is that we even begin to peel back the layers. I don’t know if there is a “best” version either, but it’s definitely feels better to become more comfortable in my skin.
Hi Joanne! I’m sure you shared what you needed to do, but I can’t seem to find the answer. I just upgraded to Mojave and now find myself with the same issue of it not be able to “like” posts or login to comment. Can you share the fix you made? Thanks! -Amuy
Hi Amy – it’s actually easy and I hope it works as well for you as it did for me.
1) Go to Safari / Preferences
2) Under ‘Website Tracking” you will see 2 options. I’m guessing that you have the first one checked (because Safari defaults to it) – ie prevent cross-site tracking. Click the other one instead – ie”ask websites not to track me”.
That should fix the problem … assuming it’s the same problem I had. I can’t remember if I had to reboot or not after changing this option. It never hurts I guess.
Good luck!! 🤞
Thanks! I cleared my cache and that seemed to work, but I’m trying your advice as well! 🙂
Love. That’s kinda how I’ve taught my kids. All the experiences, trying on activities, studies, styles, relationships, teach us what we don’t like as much as what we do. Such a great thought, unbecoming.
I love that term of un-becoming. It’s a way of thinking about it describes it better than most I’ve seen. I think that’s a great way to have taught your kids. I tink it’s so important for them to discover what they are passionate about and what makes them happy and content without the bias of the world shouting too loudly. 🙂
un becoming! that does sum up the last several years for me ❤️
That’s great Dee Dee! I think it gives us so much freedom! <3
Hi Amy, I was reading browsing comments on Joanne Sisco’s blog mylifelivedfull and came across your site. I really like the initial quote you used for this post on un-becoming. You remind me that many of our likes and interests as a child are still there as an adult….the concept of who you were meant to be in the first place. I am a new blogger, although I have always enjoyed writing. Your entire post really resonates with me……becoming who I have always been. Thank you for sharing. Erica
I’m so glad that this quote resonated with you Erica! I do think that many of our childhood interests seem to get buried and when we begin uncovering and acknowledging them, we find a sense of happiness and freedom. I hope that you continue to enjoy the blogging journey! And thanks so much for stopping by!! 🙂
I remember that picture of you – I know what you mean. I have similar pictures of myself where I was in my full essence, in one of those moments in life when everything was just as it should be. In those pictures, I look like my true self, happy and just how I want to be and be seen. Unfortunately those moments are elusive, for me at least. I wonder if mindfulness alone could help me make it permanent…
I find myself in and out of those moments. I think mindfulness might be a way to find that full essence. I’ve definitely let myself become distracted as of late and was much happier and more content when I was in those moments of feeling like my true self.
This speaks to me so much. I think that the older we get the more we look inwardly and how we can live our life better and with more purpose. Great post Amy. 💕
I’m so glad that you enjoyed this post! I do think as we age we tend to get a better grasp on those things that are most important. xx