19 Years Of Marriage


I know that you all are waiting for photos from my trip to Aruba.

They are coming.

I promise.


I’m clearing out computer space to import them. My laptop is already full and there’s the moving of things to an external hard drive.

I shot all my photos in RAW this time. I know all you photographers out there are gasping in horror that I didn’t shoot in RAW in the past, but I’ve only recently installed Lightroom (which I still haven’t used). And I’m sure to all the non-photographers, I sound like Charlie Brown’s teacher… wah…wah…wah.

Don’t worry, some of it still sounds like that to me too. I’ve got a long way to go before I find myself well versed in photography skills.



However, I think there are moments in life that deserve acknowledgment. An anniversary is one of those moments. So I’m stopping my digital decluttering to acknowledge the 19th anniversary of my marriage.

I think it’s a disservice to future marriages to pretend like a marriage unfolds as a fairytale or that there aren’t hard times.

I shared a lot about my thoughts on marriage and those facts when I acknowledged our 18th wedding anniversary.

If you missed that post, you can find it here.

Eternal Optimist.

But there are fairytale moments!

That heading is tongue in cheek.

Being an optimist is not my normal bent.

Part of my journey has been learning to focus on the good.

To be mindful of the good that is happening now.

To have gratitude for all that is well.


To smile more.

So today, I pause and share some silliness and smiles with the man who has walked beside me, loved me, believed in me, and raised children with me for 19 years of marriage.


This was on the boat ride in Amsterdam last April. We had a photo from a different time on the boat where the lady behind us photobombed our selfie with big eyes and her cookie held in her mouth. So Big Mr. photobombed us with big eyes as a play on that photo.

Carolina Beach.

This was silliness on full display during our family beach vacation last summer in Carolina Beach, North Carolina.


Lastly, here we are, all smiles on the lunch break of our Safari through the desert in Aruba.

Natural Bridge collapsed in 2005. Unfortunately, we never saw that one. However, there is a Baby natural bridge. This photo is taken in front of that.

You can see that this coastline was much more rugged than the other coast.

For more photos from Aruba.

In color.

Check out Snorkeling with Jolly Pirates in Aruba & 5 Photos That Will Make You Want to Visit Aruba.


We all are a little weird. And life is weird. And when we find someone with weirdness whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutual satisfying weirdness - and call it love - true love. Robert Fulghum quote

Let your light shine!



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22 thoughts on “19 Years Of Marriage

  1. Hubby and I are celebrating 18 years together this month. It’s our second time around though. We got it right this time. You got it right the first time.

    Have a fabulous day. โ™ฅ

  2. Love it, and the photos! Congratulations on your anniversary๐Ÿ’•
    I want lightroom!! Do you have to shoot in RAW? I thought Lightroom works on all digital photo formats? Please enlighten me (haha, I am so clever ๐Ÿ˜‚)

    1. Thank you!!
      You donโ€™t have to shoot RAW to use Lightroom. RAW just gives you the most information (not sure thatโ€™s the best explanation as Iโ€™m not an expert…the file size is about 3x bigger), so you have more to work with in creating your artistic vision. The main reason I havenโ€™t used Lightroom yet is because Iโ€™m perpetually out of computer space. I need to have a better workflow system to clean out the digital clutter! ๐Ÿ˜‚

      1. Thanks for the info! I finally just bit the bullet and got a new computer because my computer was constantly full. Now I have an external storage too, that has helped a lot ๐Ÿ˜Š

  3. Happy anniversary to you two! And yes, I’m looking forward to the Aruba photos! But there’s no hurry, don’t stress about it ๐Ÿ™‚ Don’t RAW photos take up a lot of space? I’ve never shot in RAW mode but I’ve been thinking of getting Photoshop one day soon (and Lightroom).

    1. Thank you!! Just got out a set of Aruba photos! RAW takes up about 2-3 times the space. My computer was already full before I added Lightroom. I canโ€™t use it without cleaning space, which Iโ€™m slowly working on. I admit that I have no clue how the professional align their workflow to have storage space. ๐Ÿ˜‚

      1. I have an external hard drive. I just don’t move things to it enough. lol.

  4. I like that quote. We’re all a little weird, and when we’re lucky, we find someone whose weird recognizes our own ๐Ÿ™‚

    Congratulations and many more happy and weird years ahead! โค๏ธ

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