Forging through life's curveballs

Forging Through Life’s Curveballs


Forging Ahead Through Life’s Curveballs.

Sometimes life is messy. Sometimes you’re cruising along and think that life is wonderful and you are following the path that you were called to follow…then life throws you a curveball. What can you do when this happens? There is only one thing to do. Keep forging ahead through life’s curveballs.

I have dealt with many of life’s curveballs during my 40 years on this planet. But this story is not about me. I don’t often share other people’s stories, but am making an exception because the woman behind the story is my niece. And also because she has publicly spoken about parts of her story.

My niece, Azalea, amongst the many hats that she wears, is a vlogger on YouTube at Way Crunchy. Like me, her online journey has shifted over time. She originally wrote on a blog.

She is the person who helped encourage me to move past my fears of rejection and start this blog. Also, like me, she considers her role as a mother to be one of her most precious jobs.


About 5 months ago, life threw her a curveball. Divorce. It was not how she saw her life going, but it was the new reality. She did share on her Instastories that she was going through some heavy stuff, but it wasn’t until her YouTube video last month that she was prepared to share that she had spent the past 5 months as a single mom. I had been aware of this before she was ready to share it publicly and my heart hurt for her. Watching the YouTube of her announcing it made me ache with sadness for her again.

I have no experience in single motherhood. I do know that the two times that my husband traveled ahead of us to begin new jobs, the time on my own was hard.  Raising children is hard. I have had plenty of hard moments in raising teenagers. She does have a support system, but that doesn’t make the journey easy. She was a stay-at-home mom for the most part and suddenly found her life being upheaved.


Another Curveball.

Even though life kept throwing her curveballs, she kept up her spirits and kept forging ahead. I’m sure she had her moments… who wouldn’t? Then life decided to throw her another curveball. Her vehicle died…needed the engine replaced and wasn’t worth the repair. She felt like that was the straw that broke the camel’s back. That no matter what she did, things kept going wrong. A friend of hers set up a go fund me to help with the car situation. This is her most recent YouTube video.

I’m sure that her stress is exacerbated by the fact that her daughter will soon be going through some major medical things. As a mother, I know that alone is enough to make the waters rise and threaten to engulf you. When you add all the other things that she is going through, I can’t begin to fathom the overwhelm.

Learned lessons.

However, I did recently speak with her and while I’m sure she would never have wanted to walk this journey, she has been able to reflect and find learned lessons. One of the lessons that she mentions in the video is learning to accept help. This resonated deeply with me because I am so reluctant to accept help. In this realization, she became open to possibilities she wouldn’t have considered. Being open to accepting help is why she asked that her YouTube video be shared. If you have a media channel that you’d like to share it on, please do.

It’s important that we share our experiences with other people. Your story will heal you and your story will heal somebody else. When you tell your story, you free yourself and give other people permission to acknowledge their own story. -Iyanla Vanzant

I admire the strength that she continues to show as she walks along this new journey of single parenting.

I have do doubt that all of the lessons learned will be very helpful as she continues her journey as a phoenix rising from the ashes.

Have you ever been thrown one of life’s curveballs? Did you find strength that you didn’t know you had as you forged through the curveball? Do you had advice for navigating life’s curveballs?

Let your light shine!


16 thoughts on “Forging Through Life’s Curveballs

  1. My best wishes to your niece as she continues ahead on her journey as a single parent trying to overcome the hurdles that are still ahead.
    I think many of us have issues with asking for and accepting help. Somehow it feels like we’ve “failed” in some way, and it’s that mindset that needs adjustment.

    • Thanks so much Joanne! I think that feeling of somehow having “failed” definitely reflects my struggles with asking for or accepting help. I do think that it’s a mindset that does not best serve us. 🙂

  2. Amy I wish your niece well. Life does indeed throw us curve balls but it’s so important that we reach out so good for her. Actually just this morning I watched a poignant video on FB from a station hand on a farm speaking out about bullying that ended up being the cause of a 16yo girl taking her life. So sad. So yes, speak out, share, help others, that’s what we’re here for. And that’s what will help each other get through these curveballs ❤️

    • Thank you so much Miriam! I think that learning to reach out is such a process, especially if you’ve been conditioned against it. I applaud the fact that she was willing to accept this offering by her friend to set up the site for her. It’s so sad to hear these tales of bullying. I recently heard a story of a young man taking his life, not necessarily from bullying, but from what sounded like strong expectations of success in school. I worry about all the pressures that people place on themselves and can only hope that people continue to acknowledge and seek help when it begins to feel too much. <3

      • I couldn’t agree more Amy. There’s so much pressure these days, especially for young people but really all of us go through it. I think that’s where having a voice and a place to be accepted and supported (like WordPress) is so important. xo

  3. I grew up at a different time, but my mother became a single parent and the wage earner when I was about five. My Mom didn’t ask for financial help from anyone, and there certainly wasn’t YouTube or Go Fund Me options at that time. She worked longer hours, and we did without. I think each person in this position has to find their own way and seek solutions that work for them. I wish your niece the best of luck in finding her new path.

    • While I did grow up with both my parents, we did without in many areas in order to live within our means. I think it is always a hard decision to know what is the “best” solution. Thank you for kind wishes for my niece.

      • Yes, wouldn’t hindsight be wonderful in these situations. I do wish her all the best as she plots out a new vision for her and her children. She is already miles ahead of many because she has such a wonderful family support system.

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